Gloria is 20 weeks pregnant she heard about our heart beat monitor. She came too find out more about it. She told me that she knew that she was pregnant but had not really felt anything for her baby as it was her first pregnancy. So I put the monitor on her tummy and suddenly we heard the heart beat, she smiled and tears ran down her face and mine. It was the first time she was able to bond with her baby and understand it is real.
When I was 14 I fell pregnant and came to the PRC for help. I decided to parent my child, Anele, who is now 5. It was a hard decision but has been a very rewarding one. I really thought I had learnt from my mistake of having a sexual relationship outside of marriage but fell into the same trap 3 years later and to my horror I found I was pregnant once again. Although I was hesitant I came back to the PRC for help because my boyfriend had rejected me and my mom wasn’t prepared to help me a second time. Daniele wasn’t sure she wanted to take me in a second time but my winning personality eventually persuaded her to help. (Laugh) Through counselling I decided to release my baby for adoption because of my situation – I just didn’t feel that I could take care of another baby – financially or emotionally – and I wanted to finish school.
During daily devotions at the PRC I learnt more about a God who is not a big man with a stick but rather a father that I could have a relationship with. And this is what I wanted – more than anything. Then one day at church I decided to give my life to the Lord. And I haven’t looked back since.
I gave birth to Thato in the house with Aunty Christine and Daniele as my midwives. Thato later died of a childhood illness before he could be placed with his adoptive parents.
I started volunteering at the PRC helping with the fundraising banquet but then I felt God was leading me to use my experience to help and encourage other young people in a similar situation. As time went by the opportunity to present a sexual abstinence programme to learners in the schools came up and I was appointed as a youth worker. Through this programme I learnt the importance of sexual integrity and God’s plan for sex in our lives.
The passion I have for helping young people has helped me to grow as a person, as a Christian and given me courage to face difficulties such as my status and the difficulties of being a single teenage parent.
We use personal testimonies in the schools and although the learners are often shocked, it helps them to relate to me and share their experiences.
Dear friend of Choices for Life,
I would like to share a powerful story with you:
Tamsyn (name changed), called our centre a few months ago waning to speak to someone about her decision to abort her 32 week old baby. Her mind was made up and she had the pills in her possession but wanted to know what to expect. Through some telephonic counselling, emails and whatsapp messages (as the client lived in another town), the counselor coached Tamsyn through her choice helping her , through resources and information supply, to see that a decision to abort would not be free of complication both to her and her unborn baby. A few days later when the counselor called Tamsyn over giving her some time to re-think things, Tamsyn had made a decision to meet with an adoption social worker and make an adoption plan for her baby instead of aborting.
She gave birth 2 months ago and named her daughter, Hope. Hope has been placed with adoptive parents. Tamsyn’s words to the counselor when asked how she is doing over this brave decision were; “I am struggling –having good days and bad days but thank you for helping me to make another plan”. Because of our centre, Tamsyn’s story does not include an abortion. Our intervention helped her to make an informed choice – a choice that will affect her for life and a choice that she can live with for life.
And of course because of the assistance that Tamsyn received at one of the lowest points of her life, Hope’s story is still being written. Our vision is to speak the truth, show love, and bring hope to young people like Tamsyn who need our assistance. During the past 25 years we have made it our aim to reach the needs of our community in terms of our crisis counselling and more recently our sexual health program. We rely heavily on your donations to make a difference in our community and for allowing us to be effective.